I don’t even have an intro for this one. I really need my readers to get involved on this one because maybe I’m not seeing something.
I am a single mother of 3 children by 2 men. Before I get the side eyes and sucking through the teeth that I am a whore, I ve only been with 2 men my whole life. I am 33. The father of my last 2 children and I havent been together in 2 years, however he is engaged to a woman. I am truly pissed off because I was in a relationship with him for 9 years. 9 freaking years no ring, no proposal. I was there for him for several ups and downs. That car he drive in my name. Me and his children are riding the bus. He seems to be happy about this new chick and I dont know why. I gave him everything my twenties, my body, and I was his personal incubator for 2 of his children. I feel that I should be the one with the ring. Everytime he talks about her its like she can move mountains, spit fire out of her ass, and shit puppies and rainbows. I just want to fade to black and beat some sense into his ass that she will never love you like I have and will. I am not letting him see
*****and********until he gets back with me. I mean it. What I want to know is how can I get him back? I know he loves me because he cant be that stupid. I’m a great catch. I got a job at the shoe store, I just moved out from living with my mom and I have lost most of the baby weight. I want that ring. I deserve it. I dont know why he wants to make an honest woman out of her not not the mother of his child.Signed,
Forever Waiting
Lady….. lady, lady, lady! I don’t really think that the answer I’ve prepared for you is what you’re looking for.
You need help. If you do get him back I assure you, you’ve not gained a thing. Your worth is not simply tied to the list of attributes you’ve taken the time to share. Your self-respect is at an all time Zero. I can sympathize with your type, you want a family, you thought you were in love, you never learned how to be treated. I don’t blame you for what got you to this point, however if you continue down this path it’s all on you. Here’s a list of all the things that someone should have told you about life that you can now apply towards thinking clearly and making good decisions.
1. You can ALWAYS say NO- Nobody takes away your right to choose how to spend your life. The next man you let into your life, the next child you bring into this world, be very clear that they are there because of YOU saying YES. Examine your situation and be sure that your next move is your best move (to take a line from Goldie the pimp)
2. Number one applies to EVERYBODY- Including your beloved children’s father. There was a song way back when we were kids that went “I can’t make you love me, if you don’t” It still rings true today. I’ll never tell someone how to feel, but you’ve got to come to terms with the fact that your feelings are not being reciprocated.
3. Keeping your children away from their father is trifling unless he’s a horrible person in general.
4. The jewelry store is open every day…even Sundays. If you want a ring that bad, buy yourself one.
5. Please define “an honest woman” in 2013… -because if you know the definition now, that means you’ve always known it because that’s an old school reference. At what point in time did you set the standard that you wouldn’t bring a life into this world without the conditions of “honesty” that you hold dear? It’s clear that you haven’t so let’s just get past that and try to do better on the back end.
6. I don’t know if you know if he’s a reader of mine or not, but this reads like the breakdown of an Otis Redding song. I love all of my readers, and I do what I can to keep you anonymous, but those are some unique names so had I not removed them, it might be easy to figure you out.
Tighten Up.
-All Love
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